Triangular Conversations

Often when we get upset with another person, we don't talk directly to that person about the issue but rather to another person. Many people are afraid of confrontation and I think historically women in this country were taught to not have an opinion and to not express it or any negative emotion. This has carried over in the way that most women deal with confrontation - passively rather than directly.

Often if we honestly look at our motives behind having triangular conversations, with third parties rather than direct communication with the person; we find resolution is not our primary motive behind the communication. Instead we often talk to other people to win favor, to feel justified in our stance, or to make ourselves feel better.

The only problem with "venting, complaining, or gossiping" about one person to another person, is it does not lead to a resolution of the issue and almost always causes more discord among the two individuals. Much of the tension between certain women is based on a slight, a grudge or a misunderstanding that if talked about could most likely be resolved.

So if you have not been happy with the outcomes of issues you have had in the past with others. Next time try going directly to the source of the problem to look for resolve.



Be Impeccable With Your Word: Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. - Miguel Ruiz

Why Man?!?

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So I have been studying and contemplating and trying to figure out, really figure out - why men have always held the power in the majority of civilizations throughout history (avoiding the religious citations - because we won't even go there and it was occurring even before modern religions times).
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What magical roll of the dice chose men to be the Kings, the Monarchs, the Presidents. Why did giving birth and caring for the children make women second class? 

    You would think the mere miracle of being able to birth a child would hold some kind of reverence in itself. 

So my goal with this blog is to try and figure out through history and anthropology, why this came to be. I will let you all know as I go along, my findings.  

© Photographer Randy Harris

Who isn't afraid of a momma bear trying to protect her cubs? Women by nature have some amazing strengths within them - multitasking, attention to details, loyalty, protectiveness, and many more. Companies are starting to exploit women's innate assets rather than embellishing their liabilities. This is a brave and smart strategy which will only benefit those organizations as well as society as a whole.

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According to Businessweek, women hold 20% or less of leadership positions even though they make up 48% of the total workforce.
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I am excited to see the possibilities for women in the workforce. I think it will be one of the major social shifts of our time. By my life's conclusion, I predict we will see a much more equatable division of leadership and influential positions among women and men. 

 “Let the beauty we love be what we do.”  ― Rumi

Let's pull it together Ladies!

So many times in my life

I have found myself contemplating the lack of power and influence women, as a group, have possessed throughout history. I feel that there is something to be done about this and it is the sole responsibility of women to do something about it. We are often our own worst enemies when in fact if we allied ourselves we would benefit as individuals and as a whole. 

I feel that there should be more "pulling up" of women by other women rather than "putting down" - I don't know if anyone will read this blog but I wanted some place to speak my mind and encourage others to do so. 

This is not however a place to bash - bash men or other women for that matter. Let's stick to empowerment through positivity and by example. Let's encourage each other to be the best we can be! 

Mentor another woman you know - show a woman graciousness in the eye of pettiness - be the woman that you want others to be. 

Dare To Believe by Boyce Avenue