Empowering vs. Enabling

It is an important distinction - one that I feel many women do not make.

Doing something for someone else is often quicker and easier in the short run than teaching them how to do something for themselves. 


I think women in general are "pleasers." They don't want to cause waves or ruffle feathers. So in order to avoid conflict, they do too much for others when they should be doing it for themselves. 

You may give them guidance when needed and help them at times but the measure of a STRONG woman is not how much she takes on but rather how much strength she passes on to others by teaching them and giving them the support they need to be the best they can be.

So whether it is teaching, coaching, supervising, or parenting - it is always better to empower someone to learn how to be good at something rather than doing if for them and enabling them to stay ignorant, weak, or lazy.