Showing posts with label mutual. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mutual. Show all posts

Monday, February 23, 2015

Subtle Sexism



Subtle Sexism exists all around us.

It is often these seemingly minor slights that can have the biggest impact. When a man and woman are on a committee together, coteaching a class, or presenting a project to the boss.  

If a man never reiterates what the woman says - He does not reference her in his comments - He turns his body away from her rather than bladed somewhat toward her during his conversation - He corrects her or interrupts her - Rolls his eyes or makes faces while she is talking

These are all indicators of disdain, disrespect, and disregard

Others present WILL pick up on these subtleties & they will transfer to them. They too will unconsciously disregard the female or her ideas or not respect her as highly as the male.
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If you are a male and wish to not subtlety undermine your female counterpart in a meeting, training class, etc. then do the following:

  • Refer to her by name
  • Gesture toward her when speaking positively about something
  • Include her in the discussion or conversation
  • Openly credit her for her work or contribution
  • If you have something to change in what she is saying or instructing then talk to her about it and give her the opportunity to amend the comment or further clarify it rather than you speaking for her or even worse, against her. 
Undermining a female coworker in a public setting can be a devastating set back that the two individuals may never be able to recover from. 

Build People Up! 

Thursday, December 6, 2012

To Bee or Not to Bee





That is the question.

Bees have an interesting social dynamic. 

Queen Bee 
There is only one queen per hive. Fertilized eggs become female (worker bees) and unfertilized eggs become male (drone bees). When the queen dies or becomes unproductive, the other bees will "make" a new queen by selecting a young larva and feeding it a diet of "royal jelly". 
Worker Bee 
Worker bees are female bees that are not able to reproduce. Nearly all of the bees in a hive are worker bees. They feed, bath and guard the queen, tend to the nursery, collect food, etc. Worker bees live from 6 weeks to a few months, they actually work themselves to death. 
Drone Bee 
Drones are male bees.They are kept only for mating. Because the drone has a barbed sex organ, mating is followed by death. Drones still alive in the autumn are expelled from the hive.

In Bee culture, the whole hive centers around the Queen Bee, all others are there to serve her and the hive. Unfortunately there seems to be a Trend these days toward the Queen Bee Syndrome.

The problem with this scenario is that we are not bees - we are human beings and we should act humanely and treat others with mutual respect. 

We should not look at what others have to offer us but rather, what do I have to offer this world! 


First blogged 2/19/12