Cut It Out!

Cutting is an epidemic in the United States. It has become an upward trend in middle and high schools thoughout the country.


Teens are continually struggling with their Self Worth and Self Image and trying to fit into the unrealistic expectations that media and society impose on them. 

Girls and even Boys report that they cut themselves to redirect their attention from the pain of their life to the pain of the physical wound. They use cutting as a coping mechanism and there is an increasing amount of peer pressure towards the trend. Any kind of coping mechanism; whether it be overeating, bulimia, using drugs - is just a distraction from a deeper issue. The issues should be addressed directly to try and eradicate the destructive behavior. 

If you know of any young women who are cutting, talk to them about their behavior and encourage them to get help. Whether they are doing it as a trend or because they are hurting inside, it is very damaging both to their physical and emotional health. 

According to KidsHealth, don't be surprised if your teen resists your efforts to talk about cutting. He or she might deny cutting, get angry or upset. A teen might not want to talk to you or say that you wont understand. If this does happens; be patient, don't take it personally, and don't give up. Try another time and another way to talk about it.

First Posted 3/7/12

Cesspool of the Soul

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ABUSE

Abuse during childhood tends to settle into our soul rotting it to the bottom, forming a thin layer of disgust on top, soon becoming a cesspool.

Cleaning out a cesspool is no easy task.  Regardless of how bad the cesspool smelled before, skimming off the muck on top always makes the stench worse, some would say unbearable. After the scum on top has been cleared, the water has to be cleaned and begin flowing so it will not stagnate again.

Facing and Purging the memories of childhood abuse is cleansing the cesspool of the soul.

It is not an easy or a pleasant process. Often we are not able to face the shame and pain until the perpetrator is no longer a part of our lives or try to cover the pain and stench with substance or self abuse. For many, living with the stench is more tolerable than facing the memories and reliving the pain; but it is vital to face them in order to once and for all cleanse the memories and trauma.

The unhealed pain of childhood abuse is a poison to our soul that seeps into our relationships, our parenting, and our emotional well being.

If you can bear it - face your past - your pain - and once and for all leave them behind

HAPPIER  ◊  HEALTHIER  ◊  BETTER
first blogged 11/24/12

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Girls Can do Anything

I truly believe this! In this day and Age and in this Country, Girls have unlimited possibilities. There is not a field or profession that a young woman does not have access to, accept for maybe Navy Seals and SWAT Operators - and hopefully one day that WILL change. This has come about from hundreds of years of other Women Paving the Way. 

So if you feel offended at work, under appreciated at home, or generally frustrated by your womanhood; think about all of the women who have come before you and all the opposition they have faced. If they had not persevered we would not have - 



Radium invented by Marie Curie in 1898





White Out Invented by Bette Nesmith Graham in 1958




Windshield Wipers invented by Mary Anderson in 1903 
  



Kevlar invented in 1964 by Stephanie Kwolek

So next time you think you can't accomplish something

∞ Think Again Sister ∞

First blogged 2.13.12

Girl Scouts Forever

This year marks the 100 year Anniversary of Girls Scouts of America

In 1912, Juliette 'Daisy' Low got together a group of young girls for hiking and The Girl Scouts of America was born. An Organization who ~ builds girls of courage, confidence, and character, who make the world a better place.


The Girl Scouts are committed to honoring all paths for girls and empowering them into confident Women. 

Scout Song
"Girl scouts together onward we go. Joining as sisters stronger we grow
Mothers and lawyers, women in space
We know no boundaries, the future's our place." 

I was a girl scout from 1-8th grade. It was a great experience for me and definitely shaped my ideas of what women could do. It was alot of FUN as well!

If you have a daughter or other young female relative, I would encourage them to get involved in this organization. You will see a more confident, self sufficient young lady emerge from such a rich experience. 

Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined.   ~ Henry David Thoreau

The Price of Beauty

Beauty should be about making people feel good about themselves and happy with who they are, NOT trying to make people look like photoshopped supermodels.

• Twenty years ago, models weighed 8% less than the average woman. Today, they weigh 23% less than the average woman

• One out of every four college aged women has an eating disorder
• One half of 4th grade girls are on a diet
• 79% of teenage girls who vomit and 73% of teenage girls who use diet pills are frequent readers of women’s health and fitness magazines
• A study found that 25% of Playboy centerfolds met the weight criteria for Anorexia
• Marilyn Monroe was 5’5” and weighed 135 pounds. The modern day "voluptuous" model has been Pamela Anderson at 5’7” and 120 pounds

Let's help women to have a healthier body image, one that is conducive to their natural body weight. Some women are born with small structures others with larger structures. Healthy is the key. Strive to eat healthy and stay active rather than diet. I threw away my scale over 20 years ago. 

Be mindful of critical remarks of young girls about their looks or weight. These early comments can affect them their whole lives. 

Encourage your daughters, nieces, sisters to have REAL LIFE role models rather than Movie Stars and Models.

♥ YOU ARE PERFECT ♥

Selena Genderswitch who says by Mr.Dreamer