Project the Positive

Next time you are having a challenge with a coworker or supervisor, try projecting the positive into the situation.


Focus on a possible resolution to the conflict. Imagine a resolution and work towards that through projecting those ideas into the situation. 

Use Statements such as: 

"I know that we can come to a good working relationship.""I feel confident that we can overcome this challenge.""I am committed to making this a good working relationship." 

"I understand how you could feel that way."

You most likely will take them off guard and that is one of the biggest challenges to any resolution ~ people taking offense and putting up a defense.


“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” 
― Dalai Lama XIV

First blogged 3/4/12

Try Not to Get Cut

You can't break through a Glass Ceiling without getting a little cut up.

Any person who has been the first at anything - first woman to join the Citadel, the first African American to go to a Desegregated School in the south, the first Man on the Moon; has had to face many challenges and obstacles that probably seemed insurmountable at the time. They may have not even enjoy their victory because of all of the turmoil but THEY WERE THE FIRST. Someone always has to be and it clears the way, free of as much glass hopefully, for others to follow.

Some people may be better at breaking glass, they may learn to take precautions before breaking it or even safer ways to break through the glass; but even the most skilled person is going to get a few scratches.

So if you have gotten cut up a bit by being one of the firsts in a social changing situation; wear your scars with pride. 

Remember -- You Made History and We ALL are forever grateful to you for it.

Originally Posted 2/12

Why Man?!?

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So I have been studying and contemplating and trying to figure out, really figure out - why men have always held the power in the majority of civilizations throughout history (avoiding the religious citations - because we won't even go there and it was occurring even before modern religions times).
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What magical roll of the dice chose men to be the Kings, the Monarchs, the Presidents. Why did giving birth and caring for the children make women second class? 

    You would think the mere miracle of being able to birth a child would hold some kind of reverence in itself. 

So my goal with this blog is to try and figure out through history and anthropology, why this came to be. I will let you all know as I go along, my findings.  

© Photographer Randy Harris

Who isn't afraid of a momma bear trying to protect her cubs? Women by nature have some amazing strengths within them - multitasking, attention to details, loyalty, protectiveness, and many more. Companies are starting to exploit women's innate assets rather than embellishing their liabilities. This is a brave and smart strategy which will only benefit those organizations as well as society as a whole.

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According to Businessweek, women hold 20% or less of leadership positions even though they make up 48% of the total workforce.
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I am excited to see the possibilities for women in the workforce. I think it will be one of the major social shifts of our time. By my life's conclusion, I predict we will see a much more equatable division of leadership and influential positions among women and men. 

 “Let the beauty we love be what we do.”  ― Rumi