Project the Positive

Next time you are having a challenge with a coworker or supervisor, try projecting the positive into the situation.


Focus on a possible resolution to the conflict. Imagine a resolution and work towards that through projecting those ideas into the situation. 

Use Statements such as: 

"I know that we can come to a good working relationship.""I feel confident that we can overcome this challenge.""I am committed to making this a good working relationship." 

"I understand how you could feel that way."

You most likely will take them off guard and that is one of the biggest challenges to any resolution ~ people taking offense and putting up a defense.


“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” 
― Dalai Lama XIV

First blogged 3/4/12

Please and Thank You

From my experience, women do get more done with these two little phrases.


Whether it is right or wrong - I have found a man can say something very directly and to the point; whereas a woman is expected to add pleasantries such as please and thank you to her requests.


Hurt pride and personalities get bruised and cause barriers to communication preventing good working relationships. Life would be alot easier if personalities didn't get in the way in life, but we are not Vulcans.


So I had to decide - which was more important - to be 'right' or to be effective.

For me, having the most efficient and effective communication is one of the most important aspects of any good relationship, at home or at work. I have found for me to be the most effective, It is worth it for me to soften my edges.  

Please Please Please - Smiths Cover by StephMcW

Mother Daughter Day

With work, homework, soccer practice, ballet, band concerts, and all of the other things that are involved in raising children; life gets very hectic. During this whirlwind of everyday activity, meaningful time however is hard to come by with our growing children. As children get older, it seems even harder to manage an outing with them yet those teen years can be essential time for children to connect with their parents.


Schedule some quality time every few weeks, with that young lady in your life. Plan a fun excursion that will give you both a wonderful memory:

1. Go to a climbing gym with her
2. Take a Cooking workshop together
3. Go meet your local representative or senator
4. Paint ceramics at your local Paint-A-Plate place
5. Go get a pedicure or manicure
6. Take her to a fancy, dress up dinner
7. Go on a bike ride on a nature trail
8. Take your daughter to the theater
9. Go horseback riding
10. Bake some cookies and deliver them to an elderly neighbor
11. Have fun Go Cart Racing

If you do not have a daughter, take a niece or other young relative. The Big Brother Big Sister Program in your area is also a great way to give your time to deserving youth. 

Young girls need a positive role model during these formative years. Middle School and High School years are always a socially awkward time, when a young girl is becoming a young lady.


So put away the ipods, ipads, and text messaging & slow down ~ spend some quality time with your little girl before she grows up on you.  

It will make a difference :)