Project the Positive

Next time you are having a challenge with a coworker or supervisor, try projecting the positive into the situation.


Focus on a possible resolution to the conflict. Imagine a resolution and work towards that through projecting those ideas into the situation. 

Use Statements such as: 

"I know that we can come to a good working relationship.""I feel confident that we can overcome this challenge.""I am committed to making this a good working relationship." 

"I understand how you could feel that way."

You most likely will take them off guard and that is one of the biggest challenges to any resolution ~ people taking offense and putting up a defense.


“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” 
― Dalai Lama XIV

First blogged 3/4/12

Build Bridges

Not Walls

Communication in its basic form, is a method of relaying information. Communication can be either destructive or constructive depending on the delivery. Poor communication can ruin marriages, destroy friendships, and erode business relationships.

We may feel hurt by what someone has said. Instead of taking the time to process the words of another, we often just react with pure emotion - throwing an emotional brick back in their face. 

Those bricks soon construct an insurmountable wall. 

When possible, in interpersonal communication, think your responses through first. Allow yourself to really understand what was said to you. Ask clarifying questions if need be. Try to see the situation from their perspective. Weigh the benefits versus the repercussions of your response. Examine your motive, are you seeking resolution or just retaliating from an offense.

Choose to respond in a way that fosters a better relationship with that person and works towards forward progress. 

Next time you throw out a brick - make sure it is used to build a bridge rather than fortify a wall. 

Originally blogged 2/29/12

Rescue Me Syndrome

Animals need to be rescued - PEOPLE do not!

Often insecure women end up in dysfunctional relationships because they form relationships with people who themselves are:

• In a "bad marriage"
• Insecure - who have been abused themselves as a child
• Who are looking for someone to take care of them
• Abusers 
• Narcissistic Manipulators

Relationships are mutually enhancing situations that benefit the two individuals on the overall. They should not be one side, dominated by one individual, or serving the good of one at the expense of the other. 

Learning how to have HEALTHY Relationships is one of the greatest accomplishments in life and one that can serve to benefit you and others the most. 

‡SAVE YOURSELF FIRST‡